Adventures of a new Dad

Archive for October, 2010

Morning sickness and feeling helpless

So being in our seventh week now, morning sickness has well and truly arrived 😦 It’s weird, I’ve obviously heard of morning sickness, and may even have witnessed it a bit in sisters and friends when they’ve been pregnant, but it’s never affected me like seeing my love have to go through it!

I just feel utterly helpless with each fresh wave of nausea. We can be talking normally, and then suddenly that look comes and I know she’s going to have to run off again. I just wish there was something practical i could do – being a man, obviously it is my God-given task to fix it! The best I can do is keep reminding us that morning sickness is a good sign, and that it is stabilising the baby. That helps, and I know when we’re holding our baby, it’ll be totally worth it!

Still, it’s made me think a bit – mums really do suffer for their children! As a bloke I don’t think I ever appreciated exactly what mums go through. Obviously I’m never going to experience nausea due to pregnancy, but seeing it firsthand in the woman I love is giving me a glimpse and an inkling of how motherhood has to start much earlier than fatherhood. All of which is to say, big love and respect to my wife who is already caring for our little one!

As for fatherhood, thinking again, I guess I’m already doing it because every time I care for my wife, I’m also caring for our baby. What’s more, I get to pray and ask our Father to look after all three of us, which is very cool 🙂

Five weeks pregnant

My wife is now five weeks pregnant! The news has well and truly sunk in, and we’ve received our chosen pregnancy book in the post, The Day-by-Day Pregnancy Book. It’s a great book, showing how the baby grows and develops day by day. Rather than a huge book that we’d probably never get around to reading, we can read a page a day, with photos, diagrams and little tips giving exactly the information we need at the time we need it! For example, at the start of this week, they showed us an actual-size photo of what Baby Sidnell looks like at the moment – he’s only 2.5mm tall!!

We’re enjoying the journey of adjusting our thoughts of what life would hold over the couple of years. As I said before, kids were always on our agenda, but we’d not been thinking of having them immediately. We’re settling in to the idea that our family is starting a bit earlier than planned, and we’re totally into it now!

I’m finding that the paternal instincts are kicking in – if anything, I might be being a bit over-protective of my lovely wife and the baby growing a bit bigger every day. There’s a fine line between healthy care, and over-bearing dictatorship, and I’m just praying that God will always keep me on the right side of that line! My wife is accepting it well though. It helps that all we both want is for our little addition to keep on growing healthily and normally 🙂