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Ready and waiting…

Let’s get that oldest blog cliche out of the way – it really has been a long time since my last post! In many ways, I’m a bit gutted that I’d not been better at writing posts – there’s been so much that we’ve been through as our little one has been getting ready for their debut. Some of what I’ve thought of writing about will still be good to write about in future. An awful lot of them have been about the natural fears, worries and concerns about health and illnesses, and with two cases of chicken pox in my family recently I’m under no illusions that this will disappear when our baby arrives! Opportunities to write the other things have probably been missed, but it’s no use crying over missed blog posts – let’s get going again 🙂

Long story short, we’re now in the month of our due date. Our midwife pointed out yesterday that we can finally start saying “Our baby arrives this month”, which feels an awful lot closer than than the 5 weeks we were talking about just a short time ago! I guess it could still be proved wrong, because our little one could always arrive later than planned,  but we’re actually more concerned that the birth could happen earlier than scheduled. So the last couple of months have been getting ourselves ready.

Thanks to the kindness of family/friends and the genius of Freecycle we’ve got enough clothes to last the first 18 months or so. The hospital bags for mum and baby are packed. The nursery is ready, and with less than 31 days to go, we’re just waiting for labour to start so that we can welcome our little one into our home.

After that, it’ll all be plain sailing, right? 😉

Morning sickness and feeling helpless

So being in our seventh week now, morning sickness has well and truly arrived 😦 It’s weird, I’ve obviously heard of morning sickness, and may even have witnessed it a bit in sisters and friends when they’ve been pregnant, but it’s never affected me like seeing my love have to go through it!

I just feel utterly helpless with each fresh wave of nausea. We can be talking normally, and then suddenly that look comes and I know she’s going to have to run off again. I just wish there was something practical i could do – being a man, obviously it is my God-given task to fix it! The best I can do is keep reminding us that morning sickness is a good sign, and that it is stabilising the baby. That helps, and I know when we’re holding our baby, it’ll be totally worth it!

Still, it’s made me think a bit – mums really do suffer for their children! As a bloke I don’t think I ever appreciated exactly what mums go through. Obviously I’m never going to experience nausea due to pregnancy, but seeing it firsthand in the woman I love is giving me a glimpse and an inkling of how motherhood has to start much earlier than fatherhood. All of which is to say, big love and respect to my wife who is already caring for our little one!

As for fatherhood, thinking again, I guess I’m already doing it because every time I care for my wife, I’m also caring for our baby. What’s more, I get to pray and ask our Father to look after all three of us, which is very cool 🙂

Five weeks pregnant

My wife is now five weeks pregnant! The news has well and truly sunk in, and we’ve received our chosen pregnancy book in the post, The Day-by-Day Pregnancy Book. It’s a great book, showing how the baby grows and develops day by day. Rather than a huge book that we’d probably never get around to reading, we can read a page a day, with photos, diagrams and little tips giving exactly the information we need at the time we need it! For example, at the start of this week, they showed us an actual-size photo of what Baby Sidnell looks like at the moment – he’s only 2.5mm tall!!

We’re enjoying the journey of adjusting our thoughts of what life would hold over the couple of years. As I said before, kids were always on our agenda, but we’d not been thinking of having them immediately. We’re settling in to the idea that our family is starting a bit earlier than planned, and we’re totally into it now!

I’m finding that the paternal instincts are kicking in – if anything, I might be being a bit over-protective of my lovely wife and the baby growing a bit bigger every day. There’s a fine line between healthy care, and over-bearing dictatorship, and I’m just praying that God will always keep me on the right side of that line! My wife is accepting it well though. It helps that all we both want is for our little addition to keep on growing healthily and normally 🙂

A Welcome Surprise

When me and my wife first got married we had been planning on having a couple of years alone together before even thinking of having children. We definitely both wanted kids, that wasn’t even up for debate, but felt it was important to have some time building the foundations of our marriage before we were ready to raise a child. Turns out that, short of total abstinence, we’re really not in charge of that sort of thing!

My darling wife (DW) had been feeling a bit funny for a few days, and we were waiting patiently for her period to arrive. It was a couple of days late, but we weren’t too worried as this has happened a couple of times before. Over the weekend, we went to a friend’s dedication ceremony for their child, and one of the people praying was pregnant which made DW think “Oh, I really do want to be pregnant!” We talked about that, laughed it off, and got on with our plan to think about having kids in 2012 or so.

A few days ago I was travelling away from home on business, and waiting patiently for the train in Derby, I got a phone call from DW. Hesitantly, quietly, she told me that she had gone and bought two pregnancy tests, and they were positive. I was a bit quiet, trying to work out if this was a practical joke or not. Finally, deciding that it wasn’t, I said “OK…” Not the most eloquent, or reassuring, of responses, but I quickly leaped into action to say all the right things. After the shock had worn off, it started to sink in and the joy started to rise!

We have always been firm believers that there is no such thing as an accidental pregnancy. As Christians, we believe that God is intimately involved in the creation of every child, and without Him no pregnancy would happen. Although we’ve made the choice to use contraception in our marriage, we’ve always said that God is in charge of when we have children, and we’ll be happy if He does so. So, while this is definitely a surprise, it is a welcome one!

The fun thing now is to look back and see all the ways that God has sovereignly prepared us for this. From little things like the recent conversations we’ve had about which baby names we like, to the way we never quite found time to dye my wife’s hair before our recent 1st anniversary celebration (which is apparently bad to do when a woman is pregnant. It got really fun when we found out that He has revealed our pregnancy to various people to help us understand that this really is His plan. The first person was my sister, who has a bit of a habit of having a prophetic sense about situations. She said that there were a couple of times over the last two months where she has had moments of thinking “Oh, they’re going to have a baby soon!”. The other person was my wife’s boss, who felt God say to her last week that my wife is pregnant, but had just been writing it off as a silly thought she had.

I’m loving how God is all over this, and that we can totally trust Him to carry on doing so! The rest of this blog will be about my adventures in both impending and actual fatherhood. I hope it’s entertaining, encouraging and maybe even a little bit informative 🙂